Abakobwa benshi bakunda kwihutira gushaka abagabo ahanini batazi n’ubuzima bagiye kwinjiramo uko bumeze. Ninayo mpamvu muri iki gihe hasigaye habaho gutandukana kw’ abashakanye, urugo rutamaze kabiri. Kwinjira mu byo basa nkaho batazi kandi batanagishije inama abakuru ku ruhande rw’abakobwa, ni byo ahanini bitera iki kibazo kuko umugore bavuga ko ari we ‘ Mutima w’urugo’.  Imwe mu myitwarire y’abasore (abagabo) ikurura igitsinagore.

Gushaka no kubaka urugo ni iby’abantu bamaze gukura , atari mu myaka gusa ahubwo no mu ntekerezo. Kubaka urugo ugashaka umugabo, ni ikintu cyiza cyane buri wese yakwifuza ariko iyo bihubukiwe bishobora kugutera igikomere kirenze uko wabyiyumvisha. Izi ni impamvu 7 mbona abakobwa bihutira gushaka abagabo rimwe na rimwe imburagihe:

GUSIGANWA N’IMYAKA: Iyo umukobwa ageze mu myaka 22, akenshi ahita atangira gutekereza gukora ubukwe agashaka umugabo cyane ko n’imyaka y’ubukure aba ayifite kandi n’amategeko abimwemerera. Abakobwa benshi bishyiramo ko nibura bagomba kurongorwa bafite imyaka nibura 25. Iyo irenze, batangira kugira ubwoba ko bagiye kugumirwa. Iyo umukobwa atangiye gukorera ku bwoba bw’imyaka, ni hahandi usanga ahisemo nabi uwo bazarushinga cyangwa agahubuka mu bryo buziguye cyangwa butaziguye.

GUKORA UBUKWE: Abasore benshi ntibaha cyane agaciro gukora ubukwe (Marriage). Siko bimeze kuri bakobwa. Gukora ubukwe nicyo kintu umukobwa aba yumva cy’ingenzi mu buzima bwe. Niba ubihakana uzarebe umukobwa watashye ubukwe bwa mugenzi we, umwegere umubaze uko yumva amerewe. Azagusubiza ko na we yumva ashaka kurongorwa. Imbaraga nke z’abagore ni uko bagira amarangamutima cyane. Bahumwa amaso n’ibirori bakibagirwa ko ubukwe nyabwo butangira bukeye bwaho. Kwambara ikanzu yera kuri bo ni cyo gisumba ibindi mu buzima. Ese kwihutira gukora ubukwe, ntimumarane kabiri byaba bimaze iki?

IGITUTU CY’UMURYANGO: Abagore benshi bakunda gushyira igitutu ku bakobwa babo. Ni mugihe, aho abagore bava bakagera bagira imico ijya gusa. Ugasanga umugore arahoza umwana we ku nkeke ngo nagire arongorwe akeneye guterura umwuzukuru we. Ntiyibuke ko isi igenda ihinduka, ingo z’ubu zisigaye zihura n’ibigeragezo byinshi ugereranyije no ha mbere. Ni bangahe uzi bubakiye ku gitutu cy’ababyeyi, umuryango cyangwa rubanda, bahisemo neza abagabo, bakaba babanye neza? Gushaka umugabo umukobwa abitewe n’igitutu cy’abantu, byanze bikunze akora amakosa, bikazamuviramo gusenya cyangwa kubaho nabi mu rugo rwe.

NA KANAKA TUNGANA YARARONGOWE: Kuba mugenzi we bangana cyangwa aruta imyaka yarashatse umugabo, umukobwa ahita yumva na we byanze bikunze agomba kurongorwa. Umukobwa ubonye mugenzi we arongowe ,we agasigara , abibonamo igisebo kukuba na we ubwe atararongorwa. Gushaka kugira uko undi agize, bituma yinjira no bintu atazi iyo biva n’iyo bigana. Amahirwe yundi siyo yawe kandi baca umugani mu kinyarwanda ngo ‘uwitonze akama ishashi’

UMUGABO UKIZE: Uzakore iperereza ryawe kugiti cyawe , ubaze abakobwa muziranye, umugabo baba bifuza kurongorwa na we uko yaba ameze. Ntuzatungurwe no kumva benshi bagusubije igisubizo cyenda gusa. “Ndashaka kurongorwa n’umugabo ukize”. Iyo rero umukobwa ahuye n’umusore ukize (ufite uko yifashije) akamusaba kubana, ni amata aba abyaye amavuta. Akiyibagiza ko ubukire ataribwo buzana umunezero mu rugo. Niba ataribyo, uzambarire imiryango ikize cyane uzi ibanye mu mudendezo.

KUGIRA ABANA HAKIRI KARE: Buri nzozi z’umukobwa ni ukubyara, agaheka. Buri mukobwa aba afite mu nzozi ze uko ubuzima bwe bupanze (Script): Kwiga akarangiza amashuri, akabona umugabo, ubundi akabyara abana akarera. Ntibiyibagize ko hari igihe byanga, ayo mashuri ntuyarangize, wayarangiza ntubone umugabo, wenda wanamubona ntimubone urubyaro. Ibyo ntibiba mu nzozi no mu ntekerezo z’abakobwa. Gushaka kwibaruka nabyo twabishyira mu bituma abakobwa bihutira kurongorwa imburagihe.

URUKUNDO: Iyo umukobwa usa nukuze akundanye n’umusore, aba yumva ntakindi cyakurikiraho uretse kumurongora akamugira umugore. Atitaye ku myaka n’ubukure afite, iyo amusabye ko bakwambikana impeta si aho aba amukuye. Gukundana n’umusore ntibivuga kubana. Kugira ngo umuntu umuhitemo ko muzamarana ubuzima bwose usigaje ku isi bisaba kubyitondera cyane.

GUPFUNDURA AGASEKE: Kuba abakobwa b’ubu abenshi batakigira rutangira nabyo biri gutuma abakobwa bashaka abagabo igihe kitaragera. Iyo umukobwa ahaye ibanga rye umusore (Ubusugi bwe) cyangwa se baryamanye muri rusange akumva araryohewe, ahita yibeshya ko nibagera mu rugo bizaba ari umunyenga gusa, ntiyibwire ko wenda byanahinduka, ko kubaka urugo atari imibonano mpuzabitsina gusa, agahutiraho ngo arongorwe.

Byaruta kubaho uri ingaragu yishimye (Happy single) kuruta kuba umugore wazonzwe n’ibibazo. Gushinga urugo hari abo bibera paradizo yo ku isi abandi bikababera nk’ umutwaro uremereye. Umukobwa ushatse imburagihe ashobora kuzabihirwa n’urugo akicuza bitagishobotse kubera ko yinjiye mu isi atazi uko imeze, atabanje gutekereza neza ibyo agiyemo, Kurebera ku bandi, guhitamo nabyo bishobora kuzaguta ku gasi.

Hitamo neza, wihutiraho, wigendera ku gitutu cy’umuryango …niba ushaka kuzubaka rugakomera. Baza abakuru(abo wizeye ko batakuroha)ubundi umenye icyo ukwiriye gukora igihe ufite ibitekerezo byo gushaka umugabo imburagihe . Nubwo ntawe udakorwaho n’ibibazo ariko ibibazo byo mu ngo, abagore nibo bigiraho ingaruka cyane ugereranyije n’abagabo nk’uko rwandamagazine yabitangaje.